The Peace Process Works for Grown Ups, Too


During our conferences, last week, we spoke a lot about the social emotional growth of your children and I have a story to share to illustrate just this. There’s this thing I hear all the time: “You’re a preschool teacher, you must have a lot of patience!” To be honest, it's not just patience, it is so many other traits all wound together, but yes, I do have patience. I have a lot of patience with the tiny humans I spend time with because they are learning and growing, so they get a lot of grace from me as they navigate the world, however haphazardly they do so.

But I had a humbling moment the other day.

I got frustrated.

Really, really frustrated.

The details regarding how this intense frustration came about are not important, just that it was a million little things that piled up throughout the morning. I woke up on the wrong side of the bed, I didn’t have nearly enough coffee running through my veins, and even with my early-childhood patience of steel (TM) - I’m human and I get tired and frustrated just like anyone else. It must have shown on my face because I was sitting at the table and one of my students came up to me said, “Why you have that face?” It’s not that I wasn’t trying to hide it. The fact of the matter is, my class knows me that well. They know me as well as I know them because we have spent almost every single day, eight hours a day, together for a year and a half. We have a relationship.

So I leveled with him. “I’m feeling really frustrated right now. That’s why I have that face.”

“What make you feel better?” He asked, staring up at me through his smudged glasses.

“I don’t know.” I told him. (Maybe a cruise along the coast of Greece.)

“Hmmm.” He said, looking over at our peace shelf. My students know what resources are in